Our Ancestors. The Architects of Our Story.
The idea that our ancestors have been architects of our story alludes to a deep relationship between the past and the present. Just as architects plan and build structures, defining their shape and purpose, so too did our ancestors lay the groundwork for our existence. Their choices, life events, and genetic composition have shaped who we are now. We could better appreciate the complexity of human existence and the interconnectedness of all people by learning more about our ancestry.
The ancestors are those who have gone before, all the life that has ever been, leaving behind the traces of kinship. Relics belonging to ancestors are carefully conserved throughout the world. fragments of natural soil, objects used in rituals, or personal items. These artefacts help lessen the pain of death’s separation between the living and the cherished dead. In addition to exhibiting immateriality, a response, and introspective serenity that imply they exist in timeless dimensions, ancestors appear to possess a certain kind of materiality and elevated awareness. We imagine the ancestors reside in the Night Sky, Underworld, and Land of the Dead, those are our mythic conceptions of the sacred places of origin.
How would we have survived if we had not been carried on the shoulders of our ancestors? The ancestors enter the realm of dreams and imagination, stepping through the threshold of consciousness to pose inquiries, share wisdom, and reveal the many facets of our identities. They ‘visit’ us in familiar patterns of behaviour as well as inexplicable phenomena, inviting curiosity and engagement.
However, ancestors are not only felt as benevolent. They can act on our psyches as ‘malignant ghosts’, critical and shaming. They ‘haunt’ us if neglected, imposing themselves as fixed beliefs and fear of change or reinterpretation. For some, they represent the way to liberation, in others, they represent endless rebirth.
What “haunts” are not the spirits of our ancestors in the literal sense. Sometimes, an intergenerational message is present with no way towards verbalisation, creating a sort of gap that can be painfully felt. A psychoanalyst, Galit Atlas, in her book „Emotional Inheritance,” talks about intergenerational secrets and unprocessed experiences that often don’t have a specific voice or image in our minds but still come rushing at us. We may carry within us the losses and traumas of our grandparents or parents that they never had the opportunity to fully articulate. We can feel these traumas, even if we are not consciously aware of them. Traumas that generations of our relatives have gone through can turn into nameless horrors, and untold stories are re-enacted again and again. Psychoanalysts Torok and Nichols call this phenomenon the buried speech of a parent, “a memory that was buried without a legal burial place.” This unknown phantom returns from the unconscious to ‘haunt’ its ‘host’ and may lead to phobias, compulsions, obsessions, or other similar issues specific to the individual. Its effect can persist through several generations and sometimes determine the fate of an entire family line. This segment of Reality is untellable and therefore inaccessible to gradual assimilative psychoanalytic work. This, in turn, creates a space in the ego where ‘workings’ through and mourning are not happening. Instead, the person may go through periodic states of mania or depression and create a ‘fantasmic’ identity to mask real suffering.
Does leaving your country to start a new life elsewhere mean abandoning the legacy of your ancestors? Not necessarily. A psychoanalyst and linguist, Julia Kristeva, engages with the topic of being a foreigner in her work “Strangers to Ourselves.” Her own experience of displacement and adaptation, as a Bulgarian immigrant in France, informs her work on the complexities of belonging and otherness. Kristeva explores the figure of the foreigner as both a source of fear and fascination. She argues that foreigners disrupt societal norms and can reveal hidden anxieties within a culture. She writes: “The foreigner comes in when the consciousness of my difference arises, and disappears when we all acknowledge ourselves as foreigners, unamable to bonds and communities.” Kristeva emphasises the constant negation between belonging and alienation. She writes: “Not belonging to any place, any time, any love. A lost origin, the impossibility of taking root, a rummaging memory, the present in abeyance. The space of the foreigner is a moving train, a plane in flight, the very transition that precludes stopping.” Kristeva describes the human condition as specific to a foreigner but also a human being as such. We exist as a split subject that is incoherently divided and fractured. This split is not a psychological flaw but a fundamental condition of human beings. The notion that we can achieve balance and consistency in our lives or discover our true selves is an illusion propagated mainly by the self-help industry and much of the Holywood productions.
Language connects us to our ancestors through its development, the preservation of cultural heritage, and genetic links. All languages return to earlier languages and adapt over time through sound changes, borrowing, and cultural exchange. Our ancestors passed on stories, songs, and customs through spoken language, thus preserving their knowledge and values. Family names, regional dialects, and even heritage can provide clues to the origins and migrations of our ancestors. Although many ancient languages have been lost, studying language families and historical linguistics helps us understand how we are connected to those who came before us. Psychoanalyst Sabina Spielrein wondered about the origin of language, reminding us that apart from verbal language, humans have rhythmic and melodic language, gestural language, and the language of the act. The languages based on sound predominate as means of communication and tend to be considered social languages. Spielrein emphasises that people become social beings primarily by using verbal language; however, genetically, verbal language is preceded by other forms of language. Initially, a child expresses their state through the different rhythms, tones, and intensities of their cries through a primitive melodic language. Spielrein wonders if it was an adult who invented a language or a child. She says: “The ancestor sleeps within the child and the child within the ancestor. If the adult really invented the language, he created it in its earliest origins out of the childlike stage of his psyche.” According to Spielrein, this could mean that the language is created in the subconscious, which would take us back to the experiences and processes of the infantile thoughts, which, in turn, would refer to the experience of our ancestors. It is worth remembering that language is complex, making it challenging to pinpoint a single origin of development, as it is in most things in this world.


The brain is mysterious. We know only a portion of what there is to know about the brain, or the cosmos, for that matter. Perhaps, for that reason, we keep producing original and amusing ideas about both.
Skin is a responsive tactile boundary between self and other and the inside and outside of the individual. Skin is vital to survival, it is the place where two can meet. We often refer to the quality of skin’s symbolic containment or permeability: one is thinskinned or thickskinned. The irritating facts of life go “under one’s skin”; one does the essential or compromising thing to “save one’s skin”.
The eye receives and emits light, looks in and out, and is a window to the soul and the world. It can see too much or nothing at all. The eye illuminates, stares, understands, expresses, and protects. We can truly feel known by the way another’s eyes take us in, we can feel despair and sorrow at being “unseen.”
Sounds, the movement of waves and wind noise in nature, and the sounds of a city travel inward through the complex labyrinth of the human ear. It is a direct reversal of Plato’s theory of sight as a projection of fire outward. The ear collects these waves in its cartilaginous pinna, directs them along spiral coils formed by the shape of the vibrating sound, and stimulates the eardrum to send the waves through three of the hardest and tiniest bones in the body – the hammer, anvil, and stirrup. These bones amplify air pressure in the Eustachian tube, which exerts pressure on the fluid in the innermost chamber, the snail-shaped cochlea. Sound perception is then transmitted to the auditory cortex via acoustic nerves in tiny hairs suspended in the fluid. Each hair corresponds to a different frequency. Because the inner chamber is only filled with fluid as animals evolved from aquatic to land animals, we can better understand the ear’s other vital function, which was to maintain our sense of balance after we lost the support of seawater.
One of the oldest representations of a house is a little ceramic Chinese house from around 2000 years ago (ca.25-220 C.E). Its rudimentary windows and door convey the essence of a house as containment and shelter. A house is one embodiment of home; “home is where the heart is”. A feeling state of belonging, contentment and safety. Physically, our earliest home is the maternal womb in which we are gestated. Animals instinctively make their homes in nests, burrows in the earth, the hollows of trees, caves and clefts; many first homes of humans were intimate, encompassing, womb-like structures. All over the world cave drawings attest to our primordial presence.
An essential part of a home is a window. It is a transparent threshold. It is an opening in a wall that lets in air, moonlight, sunlight, the colours of the world, and the dark of the night. The window is where inside and outside meet bringing together two worlds and their elements. Eyes have been called the windows of the soul. The word window is derived from the old Icelandic “vindr” wind and “auga” eye. The wind-eye was originally a hole in the wall protected by branches or a curtain exposed to the wind. Over the centuries the hole in the wall was screen by a rice paper, marble or thin panes of mica as a substitute for a glass. Eventually, being able to open and close, windows contributed to regulating heat and light and acquired the meaning of an interval of time in which something can occur.
Doors can stand between here and there, between known and unknown. At the psychological level, gates are found between the inner and outer worlds, between sleeping and waking. So gates are the point of transition from one world to another. A mother’s body is the gateway opening to this world, the tomb, the gateway to what comes after death. In ancient Egipt, a doorway in the tomb was built to allow free passage- in and out to the soul. In our everyday life gates and doors are there to protect the house and the life of the family. The gate-doorway can be a numinous and dangerous place, rich in rituals and superstitions. Offerings and prayers are made, and shoes are removed before entering. One must step carefully over a threshold, usually right foot first, and should not sneeze, linger, or sit. On the other hand, sometimes doors and gates must be opened to release what is too confined inside. For example in folklore of the British Isles, house doors must be opened when someone dies to ease the passage of the soul.
A stairway leads one up or down. The etymology of the word drawing on Old English words “stigan”- to climb and “staeger”- riser, suggests that stairs are primarily perceived as going up rather than both directions. This furnishes a symbol for ascents in slow stages and transitions through difficult steps. We see this externally in the stepped pyramids of ancient Egipt whose stairways provided a transitional zone between life and death. But staircases not only ascend, they also go down. In myths and fairytales or dreams the staircases descend into realms of mystery, magic, treasure, and imagination. Psychoanalysis taught us to search for our own descents for meaning. Freud used the French phrase ‘esprit d’escalier’ (wit of the staircase) to refer to repartee(*1)that occurs to us as we depart after an argument. The gain of creative wit by reclaiming our lower nature through psychoanalysis led Freud to reject what he considers the pretences of sublimation(*2).

White evokes pristine, monotone landscapes. The polar whiteout erases even shadows, eliminates the horizons and deceives our perception of depth and scale. White also plays between the opposites. It is a merging of fire and ice, heat and frigid cold. The Snow Queen of the North is captivatingly beautiful and wintry, the pallid vampire bloodless in its passion. White receives the projection of all or nothing. The psychologist Rudolf Arnheim observed that w
If red is the music to eyes then red would be the sound of trumpets. Red is evoked in humans by radiating energy of specific wavelengths which increase muscle tone, blood pressure and breath rate. These effects occur also in blind humans and animals, so red is not purely an experience of the eye but something more like a bath. Symbolically, red is the colour of life. Its meaning relates to the human experience of blood and fire. In primitive thinking, blood was life. If blood left the body it took life with it. At the same time, the red flow of blood was a danger signal. The red fire was our comfort and protection, but, out of control, a threat of annihilation. Red attracts us conveying vitality, warmth and comfort but also warns of danger, calls for attention, and says ‘stop’. Red tells the story of a judge (Jean-Louis Trintignant) who becomes embroiled in a love triangle with a woman (Irène Jacob) and a man (Daniel Olbrychski). He is forced to confront his own prejudices and tries to find acceptance from people from other social classes. The characters in this movie forge bonds even though they have little in common. The plot tells stories of people who are connected in the most random and surprising ways.